After I read the ways we were taught to make a man love us were wrong, I kept reading, because I was surprised that:
- Making a man feel desired and wanted
- Looking beautiful and alluring
- Being funny, witty, smart and interesting
- Having things in Common
- Seducing him
Yes, ladies, this is not the way to a man’s heart, so says Rori Raye. So what is the way to a guy’s heart? Making him feel safe where he can open himself to you, this is the way to make him fall in love.
I know after I read this I was confused, too.
What does it mean making him feel safe? I don’t know, but I’m tempted to buy her very expensive e-book collection to find out.
I did think about how my ex fell in love with me. I had asked him why he wanted to be with me after we were together for a year and his answer was, “because I didn’t leave.” He had issues with girls leaving him all the time. Is this true for all guys? I don’t know.
But after thinking about how I would feel if I felt safe with a guy, would I love him? I loved my ex at one time. I still care about him, but the love I had for him is no longer there. So what made me love him at one time?
I did feel safe with him. He knew everything about me and accepted me for me with no judgement. This was part of the reason I fell in love with him. From the books I’ve read about how to get a man, they state that guys want to be accepted for who they are.
Basically, what girls want guys want the same thing. So ask yourself, what could a guy do to make you feel safe to open up to him and make you fall in love with him.