This blog goes with Bad Boys. Women have a responsibility in how men treat them. Yes, there are some ASSHOLES out there, but Ladies, we have control over how men will treat us. The crazy men out there LEAVE and STAY AWAY from them.
I’ve been with a Bad Boy and a Crazy male. After my experiences with them, I steer clear of both.
The crazy guy I met when I was seventeen. He wanted to be with me ALL the time. But this wasn’t the crazy thing about him. He was controlling, possessive, a stalker, liar and cheater. There were hints to his craziness from the day I met him, but since I was so young I didn’t realize he was a nut until I agreed to marry him.
After he had that ring on my finger, he changed. I reminded him that I still wanted to go to college after he proposed to me. Before the engagement, he was enthusiastic about me wanting to go to school. After the engagement, his response to me going to college was, We’ll see. All my red flag alarms went off and I broke off the engagement.
The BAD BOY really taught me a lot about guys, well, Players. What do I mean by Players? The guys that won’t commit and dates lots of girls. Players come in every color (race) and profession.
My bad boy was a college football player. The reason I mention that he was a football player, because athletes at the college I attended had an entourage of girls after them. SO, it was like a female smorgasbord for the athletes.
I was nineteen when I met the bad boy and knew nothing about guys. My college boyfriend charmed me and I was in love after a semester with him.
Why did I love a guy that was cheating and lying? Well, I was so naive I didn’t even know that athletes had a ton of girls wanting them. And I was clueless to the lying and cheating.
After my turbulent four years with the bad boy, I learned that it was up to me to demand respect from a guy, to not accept behavior that I didn’t like and if the guy didn’t have the qualities I wanted then I had the choice to walk away.
When I met my ex-husband I didn’t want to date him. Why? Because he was a Frat boy, a guy in a Fraternity was just a Player, so I believed. I was very demanding and tough with my ex, because I expected him to cheat. But he’s really an honorable guy, he would never cheat on his woman.
From my experience with my ex, I’ve mellowed and the anger from my experience with the Bad Boy has dissolved.
However, I still have my list of acceptable and unacceptable behavior when it comes to men.
- Must be a Gentleman
- Emotionally Supportive
- Wants to be in a monogamous, committed relationship
- I won’t be a guy’s Fuck Toy (If he says there’s no future with him and can’t commit, BYE)
- Not supportive
If the guy I’m dating shows any of these unacceptable behaviors, I’m going to confront him about it and if he thinks the behavior is acceptable…BYE.
Life is too short to waste my time on a guy that has no problem disrespecting women.