I was reading this book about relationships and I came across this passage, “There’s a common misconception that when a relationship ends, it must be someone’s fault..But what if you both simply lacked the knowledge you needed at that time to build a great partnership? Or what if you were mismatched from the get-go? Or what if that particular relationship was meant to be a learning, rather than a lasting, experience?”
We’ve been taught from probably the beginning of time that marriage is forever. Divorce should not be an option.
But divorce does happen.
And, we’ve been taught to feel like we’ve failed when our marriages end. We blamed our mate and ourselves for the divorce. The blaming made us feel like shit and made us wonder what the hell was wrong with us as a person.
But what if we stopped blaming and feeling like we failed and just learn from the marriage?
If we focused on what we learned from the marriage, would the divorce rate for our second marriages decrease?