One of my friends wanted my advice about dating the other day.
She explained what was going on with her and asked me some questions. It made me think about my experiences with guys.
All of us have experienced falling in love and giving our trust to one person then have them shred our heart into a million little pieces. After our heart is broken, it’s hard to ever trust another person and let them into our heart.
I thought about my college boyfriend, who shredded my heart and made it hard for me to trust another guy. It was my ex, who I started dating after my college boyfriend, and how long it took me to trust and open my heart. Before I was able to trust and love, again, I made my ex pay for the pain, lies and cheating that my college boyfriend put me through.
It was after I was married to my ex I realized how wrong it was for making him deal with the wrath of what another man did to me.
And, I have been on the receiving end of one’s wrath, whose heart was broken and unable to trust due to what their ex did.
Trusting someone after your heart has been shattered, it’s hard. Why? Because pain sucks.
We don’t choose to feel pain. In fact, we avoid pain at any cost. Right?
But from everything I’ve experienced and all the pain I’ve endured, I’ve learned one can not escape pain. It’s part of life. So, one must deal with the pain. Feel it. Endure it. And, eventually, the pain will lessen.
It’s the only way to feel whole, again. To be able to live your life with no fear of letting someone into your heart after it’s been broken.